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5 Ways To Take The Frustration Out Of Golf

December 20, 2016 | By James Quinn | 3 Comments

Stinky Golfer Jim trying to stay frustration free on the golf course in 2016 (photo by Greg D'Andrea)
Stinky Golfer Jim trying to remain frustration free on the golf course – November 2016 (photo by Greg D’Andrea)

So you’d like to take-up golf? Or you’re a hacker like the rest of us? Maybe you’ve been playing awhile and hit a plateau in your play…Well join the club! Golf is really, really hard and I’ve found there is no silver bullet to rapidly improve your game. 

I have been playing golf for almost twenty years and have some really good days and some not so good days. But there are some basic fundamentals I’ve learned over the years to help me take the frustration out of my game:

1. Take a lesson
Find yourself a good pro and take a lesson. If you’re starting from scratch, this will help you avoid learning a bunch of poor swing habits. Some community colleges offer courses like Golf 101, which could help defray some of the costs of a private lesson.

If you are further along with your skill-set, be wary of the local pro that might witness you on the range and say something to the effect that he or she has to “rebuild” your swing. When something like that happens (like it has to me), ask them how many lessons that rebuilding process is going to take. If they say anything like two or three lessons, tell them you’ll think about it. Rebuilding a “swing” is a process that could take an entire summer’s worth of lessons. So in those cases, they’re just trying to sell a few lessons.

Everybody’s swing is different and I’ve found a good instructor will build on the foundation of your swing and tweak it to gain consistency. Also there is a host of online materials that show you the basic fundamentals of the golf swing, like the one plane take away etc. Keep in mind these are businesses trying to sell you something as well.

2. Practice, practice, practice
Before you head-off to the driving range and just blast through a bucket of balls, you should practice with purpose. There are some techniques you can do to maximize your VPT (Valuable Practice Time).

The two main types of practice drills I’ve learned for the range are “Block” training and “Section” training. Block training is when you go through every club in your bag and hit a number of balls with each (I usually hit 5 balls per club – allowing an extra ball or two to not end on a bad shot). In this drill, I’ll usually start with my wedges and hit up through my bag, ending with my driver. This type training is good for shaking off the rust and gaining muscle memory.

The other driving range drill is “Section” training. As golf is a thinking game as much as a skill game, “Section” training is where you play a practice round in your head. You could even bring a scorecard from a favorite course and “walk” yourself through each hole. If you leave the range after “Section” training feeling uncomfortable, you’ve done your job! This drill can pay-off dividends on the course. And, don’t forget to hit the putting green after the range.

Reality check: Never assume you’ll hit good out on the course just because you were hitting them straight on the range…That’s the longest walk in golf. And keep in mind the pros have swing coaches and practice several hours a day because that’s their job. Most of us have non-golf-related careers and/or commitments and can’t spend the majority of the day at the range (if you like getting paychecks that is).

3. Play the shot not the score
No too long ago, playing “bogey” golf was a good respectable score. It wasn’t until the advent of modern professional golf that birdies and eagles became common occurrences. I always try and play a par four as a par five and I get less frustrated that way. Also, the wonders of the handicap system turns a gross bogey into a net par.

If you become too fixated on the score, you’ll have a tendency to force shots that could lead to more errors and heightened frustration.

Here’s a little secret to the way your mind works: You remember your birdies on a really hard hole, but mostly your subconscious remembers the great recovery shot you made after a really bad tee shot or second shot. Remember, golf is a game of recovery and there are many factors outside your control when playing (e.g. weather, mood, pace of play) that effect the round.

Know your limitations and don’t be so hard on yourself if you hit a bad shot. Stay positive and the scores will come – Bogey golf is still a good and respectable score for the average golfer.

4. Set realistic goals for yourself
Successful people set goals for themselves and find ways to obtain those goals. This is true in life as well as golf. Over the years, I set simple goals for my golf game and strived to meet them. One such goal was to play the same round with the same ball (took a few years but I finally did it)! Another was to break a hundred, which took a little bit longer to achieve. I have other goals, which I continue to work on to this day (e.g. hit fairways and greens in regulation, etc.).

Don’t be afraid to go out to your local course and play a practice round where you can use the whole scorecard to note tee shot, club hit & yardage, fairway hit <y/n>, greens in regulation <GIR> <y/n>, and number of putts. I have a local nine-hole course I use when I feel my swing slipping away. I feel totally comfortable playing there and I track my game and feel this helps me regain my confidence.

5. Have fun
Golf is supposed to be a fun and social sport. Most will not have the time nor skills to turn pro. Remember most pros practice hours a day with their caddies and swing coaches, as well as sport therapists. Ben Hogan reportedly hit 700-800 golf balls a day! 

So our focus should be to have fun out there; play to our skill level; respect the rules; and exhibit etiquette for other players. Try not take it too seriously when you hit a bad shot and don’t let others’ negativity bring you down.

Enjoy the game of golf – it’s the most frustrating game you’ll ever love!

Filed Under: Stinky Golfer Paradise Tagged With: #enjoygolf, #keepgolffun, frustration, fun

Does Golf Get Better With Age?

August 20, 2014 | By Greg D'Andrea | 1 Comment

The dads of Stinky Golfer Tom (left) and Stinky Golfer Greg (right).

They say wine gets better with age, but what about golf?

I’ve stated many times on this blog that my game hasn’t improved much since my teens. When I first started keeping my handicap about 20 years ago, it was an 18. Today I’m still an 18. Despite this though, golf, for me anyway, has gotten better. In fact, it’s gotten much better. OK, I know what you’re thinking; “How could it have gotten better if you’re still playing at the same level?”

Well, the simple answer is; the experience has gotten better. It’s true. The experience of golfing has become more enjoyable for me even though my scorecard reads pretty much the same. I think this is true (if you’re honest with yourself) for many golfers and it’s a fundamental reason why so many of us continue to play throughout our lifetimes without actually playing any better.

When was the last time you heard someone say: “I’d been playing golf for 40 years, but wasn’t getting any better at it so I finally gave up.” It’s almost comical because you never, ever hear anyone say that! Why? Because you don’t have to be good at golf to love it. And the older you get, the more you enjoy and appreciate just being out on the course.

When I started golfing in my early teens (and up through probably my late 20’s), I thought I was enjoying myself out there – and technically I was. I would play every weekend – up to 50 or more rounds a year. But now in my late 30’s with two young kids, I’m lucky if I play five times annually. But you know what? I really enjoy those few times out.

I imagine as people get older – especially after retirement, they experience a similar enjoyment out on the links. Older folks might have a different appreciation than someone my age, but it’s that appreciation – the gratification of just being out on a golf course – that makes the game more enjoyable over time.

Best of all, this enjoyment is out there for every golfer to experience – you just have to stop worrying about your score and have fun instead. And because golf is one of those sports you can continue to play late into life, this game can be an invaluable source of enjoyment for years to come.

So, does golf get better with age? You bet your ass it does.

Filed Under: Stinky Golfer Paradise Tagged With: #enjoygolf, enjoyment, fun

Golf’s True Purpose

October 24, 2012 | By Greg D'Andrea | 2 Comments

Stinky Golfers Tom (L) and Greg 

having fun on the course.

We posted on Monday about a foursome disbanding due to a couple of golfers relocating. Stinky Golfer Chris saw the glass half full as he was excited about flying to different parts of the country to have reunion outings.

But one thing Chris didn’t mention was the golf outings we still have before people move away. There may not be many rounds left – especially with the season almost over, but we had an opportunity to take advantage of one such outing the other day: A day off from work and 18-holes at an awesome course at a discounted rate (now that Fall rates kicked in)!

And while playing on a work day made our round a little sweeter, it was the camaraderie I savored the most. The scores didn’t matter; the day (although it was a beautiful Autumn afternoon) didn’t matter.

Nope – what mattered was that a group of friends were hanging out together. The fact that we happened to be playing a game we love was just an added bonus – the cherry on top.

And that’s what makes golf the greatest game in the world.

Golf doesn’t get in the way of friendship; It doesn’t get in the way of telling a joke or chatting about family…or life in general. It plays on in the background so you can, well…live.

Sure I had a few memorable drives during the round the other day, but it was the interaction with my friends that made it a great day. And then it dawned on me: Why does it take the realization the we all might not be playing golf together for too much longer before we start really appreciating that we all play golf together in the first place?

Why are we out there getting angry at ourselves; swearing; throwing clubs? When we really should be out there enjoying ourselves; appreciating the game, our friends and being outdoors in nature. The time we spend upset on the course is time wasted, is it not?

So regardless of if your golf buddies are just a temporary foursome or permanent fixtures, don’t waste those 4+ hours on the course getting annoyed at your game (or lack thereof). Don’t throw away time set aside as leisure and hanging out with friends by getting irritated at your slice. Instead, ignore all that BS and learn to accept golf for what it was meant to be: Fun.

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: enjoyment, fun, golf, the greatest game ever played

Why I Would Never Play Golf With Tiger Woods

July 25, 2012 | By Greg D'Andrea | 1 Comment

Part of your profile page on Golfstinks.com is to list your dream foursome – who you would most want to play golf with. I’ve gotta say, many of you include Tiger Woods in your group.

I mean I get it, the guy is good and somewhat legendary now too. And despite his off-course licentiousness, he will probably still go down as one of the greatest golfers to ever walk the fairway.

But I wouldn’t play one round with him.

First things first – this has nothing to do with the fact that he’s a tremendouly better golfer than I am. I’ve come to terms with the fact that I stink, so it doesn’t matter to me if you’re a 2 handicap or scratch (or Tiger). I’m not intimidated…I just enjoy playing my own game.

The reason why I wouldn’t play golf with Tiger is he takes the game way too seriously. Now I know what you’re thinking: “But that’s his job – he needs to take it seriously.” Of course it’s his job and he should take it serious…but he doesn’t have to act like an ass.

For example, I’m watching The Open Championship this past weekend and he’s out there acting like a fool. Telling people who are 15 feet behind him to move further because their shadow might be in his peripheral vision. He’s dropping F-bombs on the tee; shouting “God Almighty” after hitting a shot into a bunker; getting pissed at himself for not living up to his expectations. What a bunch of stress that is.

He could be gracious, you know – Take things in stride. It shouldn’t matter that a bunch of money is on the line. So you hit one into the bunker, big deal – go get up an down. And guess what – he actually holed-out from that bunker – see, why did he get so upset in the first place?

I’ve posted about people like this before – those that get angry on the course and put a damper on things. Maybe Tiger isn’t affecting his playing partner’s game, but he’s on TV looking like a pompous ass riding his emotional roller coaster.

Those emotional displays can’t be good for people new to the game either. If I were a golf newbie, I would think: “Wow, if one of the world’s best gets that upset, I’m going to be miserable playing this game!”

But let’s get back to my original statement – that I wouldn’t play golf with him. I can understand those of you who would jump at the chance to tee-it-up with Tiger. Getting an opportunity to play with one of the best ever – that would be a story for the grandkids.

But my story to the grandkids would be a bit different. My story would be about getting out on the links and just enjoying yourself. As you take your clubs out of the trunk, remember to replace them with your stress, frustration and whatever else you might want to get off your back for the next few hours. Golf is a game – you should have fun playing it.

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: angry, foursome, frustration, fun, golf, the open championship, tiger woods

Hey! I’m Trying to Relax Over Here!

March 21, 2012 | By Greg D'Andrea | Leave a Comment

The freaking work week is grueling, isn’t it? Take yesterday for example; I boot up my computer at 9AM and the next thing I know it’s 5:30PM and I haven’t even had lunch yet. Sure, the day goes by fast when you’re busy, but come on!

Like you, I have a regular, 40+ hour a week job in a field unrelated to golf. All day I’m on the phone with internal sales people and external clients talking about statistics, quotes and contract parameters. I’m a public relations consultant at a large media relations firm trying to help corporate communicators do their job better. And, as you may have been able to tell, a good portion of my day is spent trying to win new business.

Not sure how many of you are in sales, but man – it’s hectic. So hectic, in fact, that a Friday evening doesn’t mean it’s time for fun, as much as it means I have two days “off” before I have to work on Monday.

Thus in my world (and probably for many of you too), the weekends are for relaxing. Now, with a family and a home, obviously I can’t relax the entire two days, but I try to unwind whenever I can – and many times this comes in the form of golf.

Out on the course, it’s just me, the ball, my clubs and the course (this is starting to sound like The Legend of Bagger Vance). But seriously, with golf, I can simplify my life. My objective is clear: To relax. And if I don’t play well, it doesn’t matter. Nope – I’m just content to be out on the course. OK, I know what you’re thinking: “Sure, everyone says that after a bad round.” But I really mean it – I want to play well, but if I don’t, it really doesn’t matter – to me, it’s all about relaxing.

But this doesn’t mean I don’t get mad out on the course, no sir. One of my biggest peeves is someone taking themselves way too seriously during a friendly round. Like the guy who swears up and down after an errant shot. Seriously? Or the person who throws their club in frustration after a double bogey. Really? I want to yell out: “Hey! I’m trying to relax over here!”

I love the people who hit one bad shot and it ruins their entire round – I mean, why do they even finish all 18 holes? If these people hit one into the pond on the second hole, they should immediately head back to the parking lot, put their clubs in the trunk and drive home. But do they? Nope. They continue on in misery for the next 16 holes and I have to listen to them complain the entire time. WTF?

Look, all I’m asking is if you’re frustrated about the way you’re playing, please keep it to yourself. I understand some people wear their emotions on their sleeve, but let’s try to show a little self control here folks.

Golf is supposed to be fun and believe it or not, some of us are out there to relax and unwind. We don’t want to play with the guy who thinks he belongs on tour and is irate over not breaking 100 that day (he really expects us to take him seriously after saying: “I don’t know what happened – I usually shoot in the 70’s”).

What ever happened to just enjoying your round? Do we really need to witness you kicking the golf cart’s guts in with your soft spikes just because you left a 3-foot putt short? Talk about giving yourself high blood pressure – you labor all week and then have to deal with this crap on your day off?

Sigh. But I digress. And for good reason too – I’ve got work in the morning!

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: angry, fun, golf, mad, relax, work

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